The problem with getting married...

The problem with getting married is that self-centered people, who haven't learned to love themselves, or God, do it. For goodness sakes, the problem is not the institution, it's the individuals. No person who is still holding onto childhood fears, they are not willing to admit, or can not anticipate the needs of someone else should get married. It doesn't mean one will one day be a mind reader, or should be, it means they can see outside themselves and have the capacity to strive to please another person. Never tie up with someone who is not available....to love you....then get mad when they don't. I've never been married but God has been giving me bits of revelation.

We are often so consumed with how we've allowed someone to make us feel we forget that power actually is internal. When we can begin to understand this and take responsibility for how we feel in any situation and how we choose to act, we can begin to stop being so defensive in our communication with others. When we do this we can begin to be responsible for our own happiness and carry that joy into a relationship. We can begin to focus on pleasing others instead of trying to be self-serving. We will begin to join together as adults seeking to please God in every area and it won't be just a cliché statement. We will begin to seek to understand just as much as we want to be understood.

We will realize that marriage is not a fixed something you arrive at but, moreso a daily act of showing up every day to put in the work of loving unconditionally. You see progress, but you never arrive, because it's always a working process. I'm learning.
(Facebook post 8/2015)

God's love & peace to you
~Beautiful Thought

I had a chance to focus on God better through nature by getting some fresh air and going into our community garden. I saw my garden bed had not been watered. I thought people who volunteered did that part. There was a woman there watering her own. She told me to schedule maintenance to keep it the healthiest.

I watered, pulled off a few dead leaves, and pulled up the 2 small weeds I saw. I looked at other garden beds and saw one that was yellow and over run with weeds. I saw another that looked almost perfect, no weeds, but not much was growing either. I don't know why there was so much wasted space; it could be growing more things. I watered some of the other people's gardens that I could reach but the weeds were still there.

This reminded me of life and people. When you take care of what God gave you He will bless it. We must use what He gives us to produce much "fruit" and be good stewards. When you don't provide the proper maintenance of your spirit, or even gifts, they get overtaken by "weeds". When you strive for better and to be a good stewart He'll even send people to help you. However, no one is ultimately responsible for it but you.

I gave the lady & her friend a ride home around the corner. It was hot and they were appreciative. She said, "Whenever I come back I'm going to water your garden if it needs it."

Take from it whatever is for you. I'm pulling weeds from my spirit today and watering it this weekend. I pray we all get the lessons.

God's love & peace to you
~Beautiful Thought
Summer 2016